© Getty 12 Things You
Need to Know Before Dating a Girl Who Has Been Cheated On
A
lot of us have been there: You were cheated on and you know you have to get
back on the dating horse. (What's a dating horse? Nevermind.) You're
super-suspicious of everything your new partner is doing, and you don't know if
you'll ever trust someone again. Just go ahead and send this list to the next
guy you date. He'll get it.
1. She's been heartbroken, and she doesn't trust easily. Look, it's not your fault that her last
guy was a jerk, but you're going to have to work a little harder and follow
through on whatever you say with actions, so she knows she can really trust
you. Just give her some time, once she trusts you and you're consistent with
what you do and say, you're golden.
2. She sees you texting under the table - and don't even think
about saying it's "no one." If your new girl was burned in the past, she never wants
to feel that pain again. And chances are she's going to be looking for warning
signs up front. So be honest with her and you'll earn her trust. See point
number one.
3. She doesn't want
to take it fast, but she does want to know you're serious about the
relationship. She
can't help it, she's a bit insecure because of what the last guy did to her,
but can you blame her? Bottom line: If you're not that into her or not
"ready to be with someone right now," don't lead her on.
4. She's probably
going to quiz you about your guy's night out.
Just like she's going to ask you who you're texting occasionally. But this is a
fair and totally normal question to ask if you're going to be in a relationship
with her - unless you're up to something shady, in which case she'll dump you
like that *snaps fingers*.
5. Taking pictures
with random chicks or bottle girls and posting them on social media will only
cause her pain. You
know how people's minds work: Before you can even explain what happened, she'll
think you're dating one of them and have cheated on her 11 times. That's just
where her mind goes until you earn her trust.
6. She's going to
want to meet your friends, so they know she exists. Guys who don't introduce girls to their
friends are up to something. Period.
7. Her cheat radar is
off the charts. Once
a girl has been cheated on, she can see a red flag a mile a way. Do something
shady and she won't hesitate to call you out, because girlfriend isn't going
through another heartbreak.
8. She might
over-share details of her last relationship, hoping desperately that history
doesn't repeat itself. It's
a defense mechanism: she'd rather you know what she went through, so you don't
do the same thing to her (just in case you're that kind of guy).
9. If you've ever
cheated on a girlfriend, she's going to hard pass on dating you. Even if it's not true, she's
heard the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater" and she's not
taking any chances.
10. She has very
complicated feelings about her ex. Yes, he was the worst person
alive, but also she misses him sometimes. Probably just don't talk about him.
11. She has
borderline intimate relationships with her best girlfriends. They were there for her when
she hated men, and they are inseparable. She's never going to ditch them for
you. And also you should befriend them - they're probably way cool anyway.
12. She will never,
ever, ever cheat on you. She
knows how painful it is, and would never inflict that on another person.
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