12 Things You Need to Know Before Dating a Girl Who Has Been Cheated On

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A lot of us have been there: You were cheated on and you know you have to get back on the dating horse. (What's a dating horse? Nevermind.) You're super-suspicious of everything your new partner is doing, and you don't know if you'll ever trust someone again. Just go ahead and send this list to the next guy you date. He'll get it.

1. She's been heartbroken, and she doesn't trust easily. Look, it's not your fault that her last guy was a jerk, but you're going to have to work a little harder and follow through on whatever you say with actions, so she knows she can really trust you. Just give her some time, once she trusts you and you're consistent with what you do and say, you're golden.​

2. She sees you texting under the table - and don't even think about saying it's "no one." If your new girl was burned in the past, she never wants to feel that pain again. And chances are she's going to be looking for warning signs up front. So be honest with her and you'll earn her trust. See point number one.

3. She doesn't want to take it fast, but she does want to know you're serious about the relationship. She can't help it, she's a bit insecure because of what the last guy did to her, but can you blame her? Bottom line: If you're not that into her or not "ready to be with someone right now," don't lead her on.​

4. She's probably going to quiz you about your guy's night out. Just like she's going to ask you who you're texting occasionally. But this is a fair and totally normal question to ask if you're going to be in a relationship with her - unless you're up to something shady, in which case she'll dump you like that *snaps fingers*.

5. Taking pictures with random chicks or bottle girls and posting them on social media will only cause her pain. You know how people's minds work: Before you can even explain what happened, she'll think you're dating one of them and have cheated on her 11 times. That's just where her mind goes until you earn her trust.

6. She's going to want to meet your friends, so they know she exists. Guys who don't introduce girls to their friends are up to something. Period. 

7. Her cheat radar is off the charts. ​Once a girl has been cheated on, she can see a red flag a mile a way. Do something shady and she won't hesitate to call you out, because girlfriend isn't going through another heartbreak. 

8. She might over-share details of her last relationship, hoping desperately that history doesn't repeat itself. It's a defense mechanism: she'd rather you know what she went through, so you don't do the same thing to her (just in case you're that kind of guy). 

9. If you've ever cheated on a girlfriend, she's going to hard pass on dating you. Even if it's not true, she's heard the phrase "once a cheater, always a cheater" and she's not taking any chances.

10. She has very complicated feelings about her ex. Yes, he was the worst person alive, but also she misses him sometimes. Probably just don't talk about him.

11. She has borderline intimate relationships with her best girlfriends. They were there for her when she hated men, and they are inseparable. She's never going to ditch them for you. And also you should befriend them - they're probably way cool anyway.

12. She will never, ever, ever cheat on you. She knows how painful it is, and would never inflict that on another person.

5 Reasons Pretty Girls Are Still Single

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Twins Karen and Kristy Ambrose, also known as The Ambrose Girls, share their reasons so many pretty girls are single.

There are countless articles, theories, and ideas that all attempt to answer the mystery of why in the world "hot" girls are also, (gasp), single girls. Like most things in life, there are no clear answers for this enigma. Although we cannot place any serious theories into this unsolvable question, we do however happen to have in depth personal experience with this one. Not to brag, but we have some amazing girlfriends! We are surrounded by girls who are not only gorgeous but also smart, witty, sarcastic, real, and down to earth. They have it all, and no we aren't biased when we say pretty - we mean like really pretty; hell, one of our besties is a former Miss Tennessee!

These girls thrive in their careers, are loyal friends, and have huge senses of self worth. And yes, these girls find themselves constantly on the receiving end of the world's most annoying question; "how are you single?" We've noticed that out of all of our fabulously manicured and truly enjoyable girlfriends, there are a disturbing amount that are completely single . . . as in; no consistent text flirtations, no joe schmo to call on a lonely night, no pending date invitations, no "drinks sent over" meet and greets . . . Their love lives are filled with zilch, nothing!

But, why why WHY are these awesome and hot girls still on the market with no signs of being swooped up anytime soon? We can only speculate but our ideas are these, and they all center around the who this "hot" girl is.

1. She's grown out of "dating for the sake of dating."

These girls are not into wasting their time or energy on a guy they really can't see themselves being with long term. Casual dates just seem like a waste of time. It doesn't mean she isn't interested in dating, she's just not interested in attending ONE more mediocre date. Mediocre dates happen solely for the sake of going on a date. This is a concept that has grown tired on her. She would rather have a good gym sesh, some pinot noir, a face mask, and bed by 9 p.m. than participate in a forced date. She's become picky, but if someone worthwhile came along, she would be on a date in a heartbeat!

2. She's not into meaningless sex.

As much as we all try and dance around this topic, our generation is known to have casual sex with "no strings attached." She does not confuse "dating" with "hooking up." A "hot but single" girl has been there and done that with the A-holes who just want ass. She is not going to be down for this guy. To her, nothing is worse than being reminded of the losers from her past by a sub-par hookup and zero follow through on a guys part. Sex is better with someone she has feelings for, and she's willing to wait for that.

3. She's not looking to fill a void.

As young adults, we are innately forced to focus on a few key areas of life. This list normally includes: career, family, health, romantic relationships, and friends. What if this "hot but single" girl is killing it in every area other than dating? Is she really going to feel a huge glaring void in her life? The answer is no. A woman, hot or not, who has a complete life isn't going to succumb to the throes of dating desperation to find the one thing she's missing. She's too pretty, busy and happy to force it with the next guy who comes along just to place a checkmark next to her romantic life.

4. She seems to have it all.

The following statement may be controversial, but it's also true . . . guys are NOT idiots. When a guy meets this "hot but single" that has her sh*t so together, he knows she is wife material. He can't find a laundry list of reasons to give her the fade away after two weeks. She has beauty, brains and a glowing personality to boot. Dating what could be a future wife can scare the living crap out of a guy. It forces the issue of whether he wants commitment anytime soon, or at all. So, unfortunately for this hot single girl, most of the guys she's dating aren't ready for this, so they feel forced to call it quits before it begins. They see the situation for what it is and bail wishing they could cross her path in fiveish years.

5. She knows exactly what she wants.

This hottie hot hot singleton has dated around enough to have learned from her past and identify specifically what she wants in her long term bae. She is sick and tired of making exceptions for losers that live with their moms, but are "really driven." She is looking for someone as independent, successful, and as happy as she is! Her list of non-negotiables is rock solid, and she knows better than to waste her time on a dude who doesn't match what she wants. She refuses to settle for just anyone.

Our best stab at this ever pressing mystery of "how are hot but single girls, hot but single?" lies in all of the aforementioned combined. A hot girl can be perfectly content being single right now, and in fact, she chooses it! There is nothing wrong with a girl who has her life by the reins and is holding out for a man that can keep up with her. Consider this a mild PSA to halt the question, "how are you single?" the next time it comes to mind. The girl who could receive this question is aware of her single status, and she is doing just fine with it!